If you want to win back lost love that is from a long time ago there may be an uphill battle ahead for you. If you are like many, you have reached a point in your life that you realize that things might have been better for you if you had taken that other path. You thought the grass was greener on the other side and then realized that it was an illusion. You realize that the love you had a long time ago may be what you are missing. Here are some things to think about when you want to win back lost love from long ago.
First, make sure that there is nothing in your life right now that you may missing out on. The mistake you may have made in the past was that you didn’t take advantage of the opportunities that you had at that moment. Make sure that you don’t make the same mistake again by missing out on something potentially good. If you hate looking back and thinking what you may have missed out on now, try to prevent it from happening again. It’s better having love now and to not have to try and win back lost love later because you were too blind.
Second, realize that they may have moved on. Just because you are discontent with your present and are longing for what could have been with the love from long ago doesn’t mean that they are. You could cause yourself and them more harm than good. If they are happy and content, let them be. If they have moved on, it’s a good sign that you should and not be concerned with winning back lost love.
Third, understand that people change over time. Things may have happened in both of your lives that may have made you very different people. Don’t do this to try and relive what once was. Try to win back lost love because you believe that your future will be better than your present and even your past with this person.
Fourth, start off slowly. If they aren’t expecting you to come calling and all of the sudden you are there constantly it may smell of desperation. You may be desperate and be somewhat obsessed about them but don’t let them know. Take your time and don’t let them know how badly you want them back, at least not for a while. Take the time to get to know them again and for them to get to know you.
Lastly, think forward, not backward. What matters now is moving forward. You can’t relive the past but you can make a future with this person. As much as you may want to go back in time, you can’t. You lost it because one or both of you didn’t make the most of chances you were given and you are doomed to repeat it if you don’t take advantage of today. If you have a chance to start this love over or win back lost love, make the most of the moment.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Breakup advice
We all at some stage in our lives seek a little breakup advice. As the song goes “breaking up is hard to do.” Do you believe that? In my opinion it is a tough and uncomfortable situation to be in, no matter which way you look at it. In some situations it might seem easy, however in reality someone does get hurt and has to cope with the heartache and that’s the crux of the matter.
Every break up is different and each needs a special kind of advice to be given. We are all human beings and all of us have learned to cope with situations, we all experience feelings – be it happiness or sadness, you must also remember that people react in different ways. Some run away and hide the hurt of a breakup. Some people don’t understand what went wrong. Others want to fix things and some people feel like their world has crumbled and fallen apart.
In giving advice it can be a very broad spectrum to cover. First of all I would like to hear your situation and I’d need a little background regarding your breakup. So the best advice I can give you at this stage as an outsider is to first of all take a good deep look at yourself. (Inside out, that is) If one can look objectively at oneself and see your faults as well as your good points, you can then start figuring things out for yourself. Ask yourself questions like, what is it that I really want and what is it that I really need? What’s important to me? Do I want to get over a breakup? Do I want advice how to fix my relationship? What exactly is it that I am in need of to help me? When you’ve sorted yourself out and this is something only you can do, no one else knows exactly how you feel and what you think. I found it best to write down all the things that came to mind when sorting myself out. By writing things down, you let the negative as well as positive energy flow through your veins and out onto paper. It really does help to clear things up a little easier.
Good breakup advice can only come from someone that has been there and experienced a true breakup. If you have actually gone through this, then you have a better understanding of what’s going on in the other persons mind. You can also then give someone good tips and ideas of how you felt and how you solved your fears and issues regarding your breakup. By sharing and giving advice, we are all helping one another in the end. By doing this we are actually enriching a whole lot of people who were perhaps feeling as if they have been let down. A helping hand is always near and think of it this way by going through your breakup and by learning how to pick up the pieces again, you will be able to guide someone else to a happier conclusion of their breakup. You may even save some lost souls and show them life is great, no matter what!
Every break up is different and each needs a special kind of advice to be given. We are all human beings and all of us have learned to cope with situations, we all experience feelings – be it happiness or sadness, you must also remember that people react in different ways. Some run away and hide the hurt of a breakup. Some people don’t understand what went wrong. Others want to fix things and some people feel like their world has crumbled and fallen apart.
In giving advice it can be a very broad spectrum to cover. First of all I would like to hear your situation and I’d need a little background regarding your breakup. So the best advice I can give you at this stage as an outsider is to first of all take a good deep look at yourself. (Inside out, that is) If one can look objectively at oneself and see your faults as well as your good points, you can then start figuring things out for yourself. Ask yourself questions like, what is it that I really want and what is it that I really need? What’s important to me? Do I want to get over a breakup? Do I want advice how to fix my relationship? What exactly is it that I am in need of to help me? When you’ve sorted yourself out and this is something only you can do, no one else knows exactly how you feel and what you think. I found it best to write down all the things that came to mind when sorting myself out. By writing things down, you let the negative as well as positive energy flow through your veins and out onto paper. It really does help to clear things up a little easier.
Good breakup advice can only come from someone that has been there and experienced a true breakup. If you have actually gone through this, then you have a better understanding of what’s going on in the other persons mind. You can also then give someone good tips and ideas of how you felt and how you solved your fears and issues regarding your breakup. By sharing and giving advice, we are all helping one another in the end. By doing this we are actually enriching a whole lot of people who were perhaps feeling as if they have been let down. A helping hand is always near and think of it this way by going through your breakup and by learning how to pick up the pieces again, you will be able to guide someone else to a happier conclusion of their breakup. You may even save some lost souls and show them life is great, no matter what!
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Advice for healing a broken heart
Hi there, I bet that you are feeling really down in the dumps at the moment, wishing that you had a magic cure to heal your broken heart and some of you will even be wondering what's the point of being in love in the first place, if you end up with is a broken heart?
Well, have I got good news for you. you've come to the right place for the right advice. I'm going to take that frown from your face and show you just how easy it is to actually turn it into a smile again. And best of all it won’t take us months or years to learn these tricks of the trade on how to heal your broken heart. Bear with me and you will see.
First of all what you need to do is to pull yourself together. Sit down in a quiet, peaceful place. (I'm lucky enough to live near the sea and go there for my "thinkingtime")
Take a few deep breaths and fill your lungs with fresh air. I believe it's the master formula to calming one in any situation. In this case it will definitely help you think more clearly about your situation.
Now you should be feeling comfortable and sitting peacefully and relaxed. You will then find it quite easily to open up your mind and dig deep into that broken heart of yours. What I find helps even better for me is if I close my eyes.
A calmness will come over you and now I want you to say the following to yourself. (You can read it off if you must)
I have the power within to overcome this broken heart.
My heart is open and I am true to myself in my judgment.
I myself am the answer to repairing this heart.
It is my heart and I will make it whole again.
I have faith in myself and I trust in myself.
I know that no other person can be responsible for my wellbeing.
I know that this is just a passing phase in my life and with time it will be something of the past.
The pain I feel at this moment is simply part of life’s journey.
I forgive the person whom I thought responsible for my heartacheas I now know, I am worth more than this feeling.
I am a wonderful human being and I am in control of my feelings.
Now read or say the above again, repeat 5 times, till you can feel these thoughts sinking in and actually touching your heart and soul. Can you feel it?
See, I told you, you would be smiling. A smile is magic, it sends feel good hormones out and it honestly does make one feel, even that tiny bit better.
This is simply a small part of a huge plan. It's the beginning of the journey. There is so much more out there. But all in all we came into the world alone and we will eventually die alone. So why use up your time to be sad or even feeling like your hearts been broken, when in fact you should be celebrating as you actually have the power and strength to heal your heart. Be thankful and enjoy life.
Well, have I got good news for you. you've come to the right place for the right advice. I'm going to take that frown from your face and show you just how easy it is to actually turn it into a smile again. And best of all it won’t take us months or years to learn these tricks of the trade on how to heal your broken heart. Bear with me and you will see.
First of all what you need to do is to pull yourself together. Sit down in a quiet, peaceful place. (I'm lucky enough to live near the sea and go there for my "thinkingtime")
Take a few deep breaths and fill your lungs with fresh air. I believe it's the master formula to calming one in any situation. In this case it will definitely help you think more clearly about your situation.
Now you should be feeling comfortable and sitting peacefully and relaxed. You will then find it quite easily to open up your mind and dig deep into that broken heart of yours. What I find helps even better for me is if I close my eyes.
A calmness will come over you and now I want you to say the following to yourself. (You can read it off if you must)
I have the power within to overcome this broken heart.
My heart is open and I am true to myself in my judgment.
I myself am the answer to repairing this heart.
It is my heart and I will make it whole again.
I have faith in myself and I trust in myself.
I know that no other person can be responsible for my wellbeing.
I know that this is just a passing phase in my life and with time it will be something of the past.
The pain I feel at this moment is simply part of life’s journey.
I forgive the person whom I thought responsible for my heartacheas I now know, I am worth more than this feeling.
I am a wonderful human being and I am in control of my feelings.
Now read or say the above again, repeat 5 times, till you can feel these thoughts sinking in and actually touching your heart and soul. Can you feel it?
See, I told you, you would be smiling. A smile is magic, it sends feel good hormones out and it honestly does make one feel, even that tiny bit better.
This is simply a small part of a huge plan. It's the beginning of the journey. There is so much more out there. But all in all we came into the world alone and we will eventually die alone. So why use up your time to be sad or even feeling like your hearts been broken, when in fact you should be celebrating as you actually have the power and strength to heal your heart. Be thankful and enjoy life.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
10 Life lessons on how to get him back
Here are 10 life lessons on how to get him back; Take some time and think about these:
1. Appreciate what you got and never ever take things for granted.
2. Never let a situation take control over you and your beliefs or morals.
3. Most of all don't allow other people or another person to influence you.
4. Don't do or say things out of anger or jealousy.
5. You must be in control of yourself and make positivity your goal.
6. You must learn to teach yourself to face your problems head on. Look them straight in the eye and don't think things will get better by themselves.
7. In order to get him back you must not become self centred and just think of what you want.
8. Be really honest with yourself in wanting to fix things.
9. Realise that in order to get him back, firstly you must learn what went wrong and why, before you will know how to address your unique situation.
10. Never ever assume that you know what he's thinking or what he wants.
1. Appreciate what you got and never ever take things for granted.
2. Never let a situation take control over you and your beliefs or morals.
3. Most of all don't allow other people or another person to influence you.
4. Don't do or say things out of anger or jealousy.
5. You must be in control of yourself and make positivity your goal.
6. You must learn to teach yourself to face your problems head on. Look them straight in the eye and don't think things will get better by themselves.
7. In order to get him back you must not become self centred and just think of what you want.
8. Be really honest with yourself in wanting to fix things.
9. Realise that in order to get him back, firstly you must learn what went wrong and why, before you will know how to address your unique situation.
10. Never ever assume that you know what he's thinking or what he wants.
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Heartbroken Poem To Help You Heal
If you’ve ever been through a sad break-up with someone you’ve love, you may have written a heartbroken poem. You may have even written such a poem for things like the loss of a pet or a family member, sadness at moving away from your friends, or any number of sad life events. But it seems nothing inspires such sad poetry as a break-up or divorce. Just as few things inspire love poetry quite like being in a happy, loving relationship.
Poetry is an excellent medium for self-expression. Unless you’re writing poetry with the hope of having it published one day, you can write poetry however you like. It doesn’t have to be good poetry. You don’t have to understand any of the poetic terms or conventions like rhyme, meter or free verse. You don’t even have to have ever read a really good poem in your life to write a heartbroken poem that can help you feel better and maybe help you heal from the pain of a break-up.
An important early step in getting over a break-up or any sad situation is simply facing the pain. While it might feel better to avoid dealing with the reality of the situation, you can’t really move past it without facing it and feeling the pain, at least for a while. So facing up to whatever painful situation is happening is necessary. A heartbroken poem can help you deal with those painful feelings when you’ve split with someone you love.
Don’t worry about whether it’s good or not. No one else ever has to read your heartbroken poem. It’s for you and you alone. Just write down your feelings, as hard as that may be. You can write in plain language. Don’t try to imitate the poets of the 17th and 18th century. Write like you talk, and break the lines where it feels natural to you. In fact, you can start by writing one huge paragraph filled with all your feelings and everything you want to express, just to get it out. Then you can go back and arrange your thoughts and feelings into a poem.
Once you’ve written a heartbroken poem, you might want to write more about different parts of the pain. That’s good.Get down everything you can, and that will help you to face the pain.
Writing the poetry will probably be a very emotional time for you. Don’t try to stop it. Just let the pain out and you’ll be better able to move on.
If you decide you want to share your heartbroken poem, you can show family or friends. Or if you want to share it but not with anyone you know, you can put it online. There are websites designed just for such things. You can upload your poetry for free and let other people know if you want to receive criticism or not. You might opt to not receive comments on your heartbroken poem and just enjoy the fact that you’ve shared your experience.
Poetry is an excellent medium for self-expression. Unless you’re writing poetry with the hope of having it published one day, you can write poetry however you like. It doesn’t have to be good poetry. You don’t have to understand any of the poetic terms or conventions like rhyme, meter or free verse. You don’t even have to have ever read a really good poem in your life to write a heartbroken poem that can help you feel better and maybe help you heal from the pain of a break-up.
An important early step in getting over a break-up or any sad situation is simply facing the pain. While it might feel better to avoid dealing with the reality of the situation, you can’t really move past it without facing it and feeling the pain, at least for a while. So facing up to whatever painful situation is happening is necessary. A heartbroken poem can help you deal with those painful feelings when you’ve split with someone you love.
Don’t worry about whether it’s good or not. No one else ever has to read your heartbroken poem. It’s for you and you alone. Just write down your feelings, as hard as that may be. You can write in plain language. Don’t try to imitate the poets of the 17th and 18th century. Write like you talk, and break the lines where it feels natural to you. In fact, you can start by writing one huge paragraph filled with all your feelings and everything you want to express, just to get it out. Then you can go back and arrange your thoughts and feelings into a poem.
Once you’ve written a heartbroken poem, you might want to write more about different parts of the pain. That’s good.Get down everything you can, and that will help you to face the pain.
Writing the poetry will probably be a very emotional time for you. Don’t try to stop it. Just let the pain out and you’ll be better able to move on.
If you decide you want to share your heartbroken poem, you can show family or friends. Or if you want to share it but not with anyone you know, you can put it online. There are websites designed just for such things. You can upload your poetry for free and let other people know if you want to receive criticism or not. You might opt to not receive comments on your heartbroken poem and just enjoy the fact that you’ve shared your experience.
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